Post 1: A Fateful Summer Day - The Event That Changed My Life Forever
The Story Unfolds
TRIGGER WARNING: This post has some graphic details some readers may find disturbing.
The 31st of July, 1992, is a date forever etched in my memory. It was a day, aged just 14, that transformed my life and the lives of those closest to me in ways I could never have anticipated. This is a story of profound change, one I’ve spent years reflecting on and am finally ready to share.
Having Irish parents, our summers were often spent in Ireland. Although we did visit Malta once, a long and frustratingly delayed return trip ended our exotic holiday adventures for a while. Ireland became our annual retreat, a place I grew to love deeply. Memories of cramming four siblings into the back of the car for long journeys stick with me. There was the phantom farter incident—Dad, the only vegetarian, was the prime suspect. Then, there was the time my little sister threw up over my elder sister an hour into a nine-hour drive to Edinburgh. The car smelled of vomit for the rest of the journey, but it could’ve been worse for me; Caroline decided to vomit onto Donna’s lap instead of mine. Later, during my poker-playing days, I’d lament how bad I was at winning 50/50 bets (flips), but this was a reminder that luck can be on your side sometimes.
I cherished my time with extended family, especially in Balla, County Mayo, where my Uncle Padraig and Aunt Maureen lived and raised their eight children. I’d visit their lively household most summers and hang out with my cousins, particularly Brendan, who was closest to me in age. The freedom of the Irish countryside was a stark contrast to our life back in Croydon, and we relished it. In the summer of 1992, my mum, my younger sister Caroline, and I traveled (by plane - what a treat!) ahead of my dad, who was to join us later. Our elder siblings were now young adults, pursuing their own paths.
My grandparents had recently moved into a small cottage down the road from my uncle’s house, and my mum and sister stayed with them while I was at the big house.
(This was the last ever photo taken of me a day or so before the accident. I’m second from the right alongside my sister Caroline, Brendan in the middle and my younger cousin Kevin on the right)
The Accident
On that fateful day, I was eager to find Brendan when I arrived back at my uncle’s house. Brendan and his friend Fergus were in the back garden, engrossed in a game with rolls of caps. These tiny explosive caps, usually used in cap guns, were being used in a different way. Without a gun, we wrapped the caps around coins and threw them against hard surfaces to create a bang. We also used matches to light strips of the caps and watched them flare up in between stacks of peat.
We went to the shop to restock, and Fergus eventually left us. With the rain falling and a storm approaching, we took refuge in a car garage just away from the main house. This seemingly innocent change of location turned our game into something dangerous. We decided to make a “genie” by dropping a lit match into our box of matches.
(Image of a “genie”)
Let’s just say that flames and petrol fumes should never mix. A can of petrol caught alight and tipped over in the panic, and the lit fuel forced Brendan and me back in different directions. Brendan backed out into the open, while I backed deeper into the garage.
The fire spread quickly, though not as instantaneously as my memory might suggest. My recollection of those moments is fragmented—a haze of fear and confusion. Initially, I thought the wall of fire trapped me almost immediately, but Colm, my elder cousin who was upstairs preparing for a school disco and was first to raise the alarm with family, just recently told me he thought I had more time to escape.
In those moments, terror like I’ve never known (or will ever again, I hope) consumed me. Brendan’s frantic attempts to save me are a blur. I remember him screaming and running around the garage, breaking a small window to try and reach me. This act ultimately helped in my escape (more on that in next Wednesday’s post). The flames rose, creating a wall of fire in front of me, and the heat, smoke, and pain became overwhelming. My last clear memory was the unsettling sensation of my mouth melting before I lost consciousness. To be continued…
What to Expect Next
In Friday’s post, I’ll reflect on these traumatic events and explore why it took me so long to start sharing this story. I’ll discuss what I hope to achieve through this journey—for myself, my loved ones, and you, my readers. This post will address the process of coming to terms with such profound experiences and how they have shaped my perspective on life.
Next Wednesday, I’ll recount my near-death experience—a time when it felt as if time itself had stopped and I chose to live. I’ll share what I know about the world outside the garage during those moments and how I eventually managed to escape. This account will provide insight into the events leading up to my escape and their profound impact on my recovery.
Thank you for joining me on this journey. Your support and feedback mean a great deal to me, and I look forward to sharing more of my story with you. Together, we’ll explore the highs and lows of my experiences and continue to find meaning in them.
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